There’s a battle going on in my head and my heart.
The battle between career and family. It’s an ages-old battle that rages I’m sure for many fathers out there: Do I focus on career or family?
Yes, I know the answer is both, but here’s the thing: there are only so many hours in a day (and I do have to sleep occasionally).
Do I push full force on a career, writing for this blog and the others I contribute to as much as I can, make a name for myself and become as successful as possible? Or do I take a step back and focus on being a father? What’s better for me? What’s better for my daughter?
These are the questions I’m struggling with.
On the one hand, if I focus on a successful career, the odds are I can support my wife and my daughter better financially, ensuring neither of them go hungry. That would also enable me to provide my daughter with better opportunities than I had growing up–not saying my upbringing was rough, but that’s the goal of every parent, isn’t it? If I go this route, it means longer hours and more time spent away from my family (not necessarily away away, but attention would be elsewhere). I would sacrifice the “Firsts” to better support my family in other ways.
On the other hand, if I focus on being a father, I don’t miss the big moments–the first smile, the first steps, the firsts of everything. I get to be an integral part of daughter’s day-to-day life. I get to have the satisfaction of kissing my baby girl every day.
Striking a balance is hard. And I don’t need to be told that I need to strike a balance. But here’s the deal:
I’m 26 years old. I’ve got great experience for my age, but let’s face it, I’m at the beginning of my career.
I’ve also got a 3-month old baby girl. So I’m at the beginning of an amazing journey here, too.
What’s better for me? What’s better for her?
Have any ideas?