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I’m going to be a father? How’s that work?

My wife is now 26 weeks pregnant. 6 months pregnant pretty much on the nose. So she’s showing quite a bit, and this whole father thing is slowly becoming more real. Is this the way it’s supposed to happen? You tell me. Anyway, let me give you a little background.

It’s our first kid, it’s a girl, and it’s the first grandchild on both sides. (Yes, supposedly she’ll be spoiled rotten, and frankly, we’re hoping to take advantage of that. After all, while we’re self-sufficient and somewhat comfortable with our budgets, a baby will change a lot more than just budgets (duh!).)

According to iVillage (http://pregnancy.ivillage.com), this is what’s happening with my baby:

Your baby may be very active between weeks 24 to 28, when small size and ample amniotic fluid allow for freedom of movement. You may feel your baby jump in response to loud sounds or “settle” at the sound of your voice. Studies indicate that your baby can respond to touch. Your baby is around 14 inches from head to toe, and weighs 1 pound, 12 ounces to 2 pounds 3 ounces.

According to my wife, who of course has a great deal more firsthand experience on the subject than I (for obvious reasons), has told me that our daughter(to-be) is extremely active. I have been able to witness the incredible experience of having the baby respond to your voice (in this case, mine–too cool!)

We also learned today at our appointment that our baby can already open her eyes (the eyelids are sealed shut until usually 27-28 weeks), and she’s pushing her due date up about five days. My first thought: She has her mother’s nose, attitude, and desire to be an overachiever. Perfect–like I need two people in this house to make me look bad!

With the baby moving, and the weeks closely reaching 30, and the months hitting 6, it’s all becoming very real. I’m especially feeling the pocketbook pinch–we bought the car seat travel system (with stroller and carrier) tonight… to the tune of too much money. I tell you, the baby business is the ultimate racket (particularly here in Utah–the premiere babymaking state in the Union).

In all seriousness though, I know this is something I’ve wanted for a long, long time. I know I’m meant to be a father. I also know that I really have no idea what I’m doing. I think I have ideas for how I’ll be as a dad, how I’ll act in certain situations, etc. But to be honest, I guess I never really thought I’d have a girl–or if I did, it wouldn’t be the first kid. So really, I have no idea.

And I’m not sure I’m supposed to. I know many fathers out there. What’s been your experience at this stage? I’d love to know.

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